Learning, waiting and loving.

YESTERDAY'S LESSON  

You don’t give up on someone just because it’s complicated. Just because life wont be easy between both of you. Once you've discovered each other's imperfections and weaknesses, you don’t give up just because things aren’t to your liking... that is the biggest lesson I wanted my ex to learn. And a lesson I’ve known for some time but was just too proud to do. And now due to recent events in my life.. It seems that lesson that I so wanted my ex to do in our previous relationship, is the very thing that I am facing right now. My own principles are being put to test. (Photo credit: Pinterest)

TO HAVE AND TO HOLD 

I attended a good friend's wedding the other day. I was the emcee so I had to make the welcome speech about marriage and love and use these sayings that I came across with. " Happily ever after is not a fairy tale. It’s a choice". Love is a partnership of two unique people who bring out the very best in each other, and who know that even though they are wonderful as individuals, they are even better together as a team". The couple waited patiently for years, braved all the storm out in their lives to arrive at that one solemn day in front of friends and family members, before our Creator, to make that everlasting vow to be together in dark and glorious days. As they held hands, lights were dimmed, the spotlight only on them. Everyone was quiet, closed their eyes in prayer. The pastor placed his hand on their hands and said a fervent prayer as the choir sang To Have and To Hold like angels in heaven. From where I was standing, I could clearly see tears of joy softly streaming down the couple’s faces. 


In my entire life, that was the first wedding that made me cry. Why? Was it because i knew of the difficulties that the couple went through before the wedding? Was it the romantic atmosphere? Was I near my period? Haha! No. Perhaps it was realizing at that moment what it meant to wait. My ex and I were impulsive about settling down, we wanted to obtain everything in just a few months. That tore us apart. Perhaps waiting isn't counted in months or years; it’s staying in one place with one person despite the uncertainties that lie ahead. I realized, that some of the best things in life are truly worth waiting and fighting for. Against all odds, you summon all your courage and stand by this one person who magically shares the same feelings with you out of 7 billion people in the world. Even if it doesn’t guarantee a 100% chance of happiness and success, you try anyway out of love for the other. Knowing that you too deserve this chance of happiness. (Photo credit: Google images)

THE PERFECT TWO

Well they’re not really oven mitts,
but i call it my other pair of oven mitt.

 Being with someone is a choice; you don’t make it just because you have responsibilities or other people are obliging you to do so. You don’t stay together just because it’s convenient. I respect those people who stay together because it’s the right thing to do; I mean that’s the same reason why I got married before. It was the right thing to do and we had responsibilities. But look where it got us: a disastrous life, years of unhappiness and a very costly freedom. If one day you have to make a choice about staying with someone… choose him/her because he makes your heart beat fast like no one else can. Because when he's being his plain old self, you blush and act like a schoolgirl despite your age. You're always young at heart. And even in silence, you find comfort and peace with him.  Choose him because your emotions, reason and logic for once are in accord with one another. Choose him because even though you aren’t physically together, you know you breathe the same air. You look up and see that you are both under the same stars. You can never live without this person. Well, you can because you are a complete person already on your own. But with this person, life is more meaningful. And even in the physical absence of this person, no one else can simply fill his shoes. You can go on living, but he will always be your other half, your penguin, your yang, your heart and soul. Such a rare occasion to find someone who shares the same compassion, desire, understanding and values as you. Similar quirks, habits, thoughts, fears, and experiences. Its like finding needle in a haystack. Just when you think it’s impossible, there he magically appears. And even if you’re miles apart, there’s this invisible string that connects you to each other in inexplicable ways. Wouldn’t you take a risk for that?

“To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness.” Reasons to have faith, to be happy and to fight for what you both share. When you find that person... make a choice, be strong and stay. I know... because that’s what I’m going to do.  :) (Photo credit: Pinterest)








A nice, light and sweet song :
Title: The Perfect Two
By: Auburn

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